In every group of friends, there’s always that one person who stands out—not because they seek attention, but because of their effortless ability to connect with everyone. Even if you’ve had a rift with them, it never seems to last. Both of you forget about it almost as soon as it happens. While others might engage in ego battles, this person remains a safe harbor, someone people naturally gravitate toward to confide in.
You might have another best friend, but there are secrets you find easier to share with this person. What’s more, their social network isn’t limited to their class or batch. They are often seen mingling with people you’d never imagine they could relate to. In some cases, their magnetic personality leads them to take on leadership roles wherever they go—not just in organizations or formal settings, but even in casual, everyday situations, like a lively discussion at a roadside tea stall.
You can’t bring yourself to dislike such a person.
Ironically, however, the academic system often fails to recognize the unique intelligence of these individuals. Their natural talent for connecting with and negotiating between people—whether close friends or complete strangers—is often overshadowed by the emphasis placed on traditional academic skills. As a result, these socially intelligent individuals are frequently perceived as “average” or even “distracted” in their studies.
Our education system prioritizes focus and discipline, asking students to shut out distractions to excel academically. But for these outgoing personalities, this demand often feels unnatural. Their passion to connect with people may prevent them from channeling all their energy into studying. This isn’t to say that academically inclined students lack interpersonal skills; they too exhibit social intelligence when needed. However, those inherently gifted in interpersonal intelligence express their love for people on a much larger scale.
Interpersonal skills are required in most professions, particularly in leadership roles. While academically brilliant individuals may initially climb the career ladder through their knowledge, they often hit a plateau if they fail to build meaningful connections. Professional success is hardly the sole product of academic excellence.
Success, whether in business, politics, or any other field, is built on the foundation of strategic partnerships. The ability to tell a compelling story, to empathize with others, and to forge genuine connections holds far greater value in the long run.
Let’s not undermine the importance of interpersonal intelligence. It is the bridge that connects knowledge with application, potential with opportunity. So, the next time you encounter someone with a knack for building relationships, recognize their strength. And, above all, never miss an opportunity to connect with others.
